Unfortunately, trying to control our children is frequently futile and usually counterproductive. But I’m afraid that your current efforts on his behalf aren’t going to pay off. So, it’s good that you have college and work aspirations for your son. And what are they doing instead of working? (Hint: They aren’t going to school.) You’ve already guessed it many of them are playing video games three or more hours a day. A staggering 51 percent now live with their parents or another close relative. While the trend toward unemployment encompasses young men of all education levels, low-skilled men-like those without a college degree or training in a trade-are particularly likely to end up living back at home. That statistic is mind-blowing to the economists who track these things, given that men in their 20s have historically been the most reliably employed of any demographic. Want to submit a question? Email some ways, you are right to be worried: About a quarter of young men in the United States in their 20s are unemployed. In Dear Christine, sociologist and coach Christine Carter responds to your questions about marriage, parenting, happiness, work, family, and, well, life. What do you recommend I do? If I’m honest, I’m looking for permission to keep propping our son up. Above all, I want him to do well enough in high school to go to a decent college. I want him to be more independent and self-motivated. I can’t help wishing that our son was more like our daughter. Ultimately, I’m afraid that he’s going to end up living at home into his early adulthood, stuck on the couch playing video games. He lacks self-motivation, and without me pushing him (and keeping him organized), I fear (1) that he might actually get worse grades (2) that he won’t get a college degree and (3) that this will limit his job prospects. He’s often a little surly when I remind him of assignments, and he usually makes excuses for why he doesn’t have to work on something. At the same time, he is not exactly welcoming of my help in the moment. Our son says he does not want me to back off and that he wants me to continue helping him. Still, I’m constantly “helping” him with his homework, figuring out what work he has due, what tests he has coming up, or what assignments he might have failed to turn in. From the GGSC to your bookshelf: 30 science-backed tools for well-being.
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